prune

we recently had our first bout of counseling. its been only in the last few years of my life that i've been open to the idea of counseling as a tool for healing, discovery, and understanding, but this is my first attempt at couples counseling.  i appreciate alex's openness to sharing, as it takes longer for me to open up.  with only 5 sessions, its almost too fast of a process.  i fear becoming addicted to counseling, the need to talk to a 3rd party about problems and issues that arise.  i enjoy that it allows a space for alex and i to bring up issues that we argue and complain about, but never have had the time to truely sit down and discover the roots of the problems.  our ideas of marriage are becoming clearer to us, and we are beginning to see the struggles in committment, honesty, and building each other up.  This pruning process seems to allow us to become the couple that thrieves on love, patience, and kindness, and not upon other coping mechanisms that we may have leaned upon on the past, like silence, stone-walling, ignorance, complaining, etc.